Why I created Wishes
Almost 15 years ago, my Dad died suddenly at the age of 66.
I had just arrived home from work when I found him struggling to breathe. Within minutes, I was performing CPR on my father while my mum spoke to the emergency operator.
Eight minutes later, the ambulance arrived.
Dad spent 36 hours in ICU before doctors told us that his condition was no longer compatible with life.
It was heartbreaking. But there was one thing that made an incredibly difficult time a little easier.
Dad had always talked openly about what he wanted when he died.
We knew he wanted to be a donor, and his wishes were honoured. His eyes went on to give the gift of sight to two people — something I know he would have loved.
We also knew what he wanted for his funeral. There were no arguments, no guessing and no difficult decisions about what Dad would have wanted.
Because he had talked to us.
That experience stayed with me.
Leaving clear wishes for your family is such a gift.
It was a gift my father left me — and it is the reason I created Wishes, so you can leave the same gift for your loved ones.
Don’t leave your family with questions. Leave them with Wishes.
Our story was also shared by Organ Donation New Zealand in 2013.
As featured on RNZ!
In July 2025, I was honoured to join Radio New Zealand during Wills Week to discuss the importance of recording your wishes for your loved ones.
Wishes VS a will
So many people say, “But I already have a will” — and that’s great. In fact, having a will is essential.
But a will doesn’t answer many of the questions a funeral director will begin asking just hours after a death.
❔Did you want to be buried or cremated?
❔What songs did you love?
❔Who should receive sentimental items?
❔What kind of farewell would feel most like you?
Wishes was designed to sit alongside your will, giving your loved ones the guidance they need to decisions during a difficult time.
